We are only a few days away from Mother’s Day. Did you get the latest and greatest gadget for your mom? Did you get her flowers? For me, this makes the second Mother’s Day that I do not spend it with my mom. We live in two different states and I’ll be traveling on Mother’s Day. It makes me sad that I cannot be with her, but why do I need a day to celebrate my mom? I celebrate her every day!
I would like to introduce you all to my wonderful mom, Eunice. She has been the greatest supporter and an even better friend. She has wiped my tears, encouraged me to continue to pursue my dreams, and she had to deal with my younger brother, which is no small feat!
My mom did everything for my brother and I. She tried to make ends meet as best she could. At one point, she was working three jobs (that I knew about, it could have been more) just so we could eat, drink, and have a roof over our heads. My mom is a very prideful woman.
I decided to ask my mom some questions about herself and her life and her answers are below. I challenge you to ask your mom the same questions and see what her answers are. Her answers may surprise you!
Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mom’s out there! Keep being the greatest mom you could be!
1. What’s one of your earliest memories?
I remember walking to school while still living in Brooklyn and how no matter the weather we walked and got to school. Sometimes we would stop at the store especially in the afternoons and get candy before walking home.
2. What’s the most trouble you’ve ever gotten in?
I was almost expelled from school for forging an adult’s signature.
3. What was your relationship with your own parents like?
Although we had a good relationship, I never felt like I could talk to them intimately.
4. What’s something you always wanted to do but didn’t ― and why didn’t you?
I always wanted to become a Police Officer. I was always told that it wasn’t a safe job and, therefore, never pursued it, although I went as far as getting the testing information in New York.
5. Was there something your parents did when you were a kid that you swore you’d never do yourself?
Yes, I would allow and encourage for my kids to speak with me intimately.
6. Growing up, what did you think you wanted to do for a living?
I either wanted to be a Police Officer or a Culinary Chef.
7. What was it like being a working mom at that time? Would you do it all over again? What would you change?
I worked the first year when I had my oldest child only until she was around 8 months old. I began working again when my youngest was about 4 years old, but just part time. Thankfully, I did not have to work full time until my youngest child began Elementary School, but have worked ever since. It was hard at times, but I was fortunate to find a job that worked around their school schedule and, therefore, had summers and holidays off with them. Now, there was a time when it was very difficult because I did not have time off as they did and struggled to get consistent help with the kids while I worked.
8. Who were/are your role models? Who did you look up to when you were younger? Who do you look up to now?
I don’t know if I had or have a role model. I strive to be a great woman just like my Grandmother and Mom have been and still are. So, if I had to choose, then I guess it would be them.
9. What’s the best trip you’ve ever taken?
As a teenager, I remember going to Niagara Falls with the church and to me that was fun. The falls were breathtakingly beautiful. As an adult, going to a resort in the Dominic Republic was fun as well.
10. What was the day I was born like?
The day you were born was a little hectic. I was dreaming that I had to use the bathroom and when I woke up my water broke. I had Eyra come over and do a French braid in my hair to get my hair straight before heading to the hospital. After being induced with Pitocin, the pains were unbearable and I got an epidural. You were born at 4:00 am.
11. What was the first year of motherhood like for you?
Although filled with drama, because of your dad, you were an awesome baby. You were very easy going and I went everywhere with you. We traveled on buses and trains in rain, snow, cold, and hot.
12.What do you want or wish most for your kids?
I want my kids to enjoy life. I want them to educate themselves and strive to not struggle financially. To work hard and make something of themselves.
13. What do you want your funeral to be like?
What I most desire is that whomever attends my funeral leave there saying, “Wow that was the best funeral I have ever been to!”
14. What was life like for you at my age?
When I was your age (24-25) I was either having my second child or he was just being born. I was a true full time mom juggling two kids. Although I wondered sometimes what would my life be at that time without kids I never once thought to change having my two beautiful sunshines.
15. What’s the one song or album that means the most to you?
The one Christian song that has made an impact on my life is “Nobody Greater” By Vashawn Mitchell
16. Is the present year anything like you imagined it would be when you were growing up?
NO NO and NO! This past year has been one of changes and learning. The prior years to the present were pure hell! I would’ve never imagined all the wonderful things that have happened this year, but I know that God can and will top it off with better.
17. What advice would you give to your younger self at age 20?
Travel and learn different things. Don’t settle for less. Don’t let people take advantage of you. It’s ok to speak up for yourself.
18. What’s the hardest part about being a mom?
I would say the hardest thing is wondering if what you have shown your kids actually sunk in and if it was even correct. That they don’t see my mistakes and do the same.
19. If you could sing a duet with anyone, who would it be?
20. Define yourself in 3 words.
Sensitive. Loving. Creative.